"Isaac and Rebekah" 

Genesis 24.67 "...So she became his wife, and he loved her; and Isaac was comforted after his mother's death." 

There may be 'fifty ways to leave your lover' but there is only one way to love your wife/husband! 

The songs about loves lost have made many singers and song writers very comfortable livings. Why? Because that genre touches a core sore of much of humanity. There are more people NOT loving their lover the way they ought, than there are folks truly loving their lover.

Most of the understanding of 'love' in our society really entails 'romance' or fondness. We talk about loving certain foods, music, movies, colors, etc. when in reality we are describing our fondness for those things. 

We have made the writers of romance novels very wealthy.

Significant in this 67th verse of Genesis 24 is the little phrase, "...and Isaac was comforted..." Why was Isaac comforted? Because he loved Rebekah!

Love is a powerful dynamic. It isn't to be limited in definition as romance. It isn't to be limited in definition as affection or fondness. It is so much more than those things, important as they are.

Love is an active dynamic. It works powerfully as it is being exercised. Love transforms both giver and recipient. Love not only forgives, 1 Corinthians 13 says "...love overlooks" and "takes no account of wrongs."

Love also comforts. Comfort isn't just in loving, it is also in knowing we are loved. Perhaps we should start relating to those with whom we are in a 'loving' relationship by becoming comforters.

With that dynamic of loving/comforting then in effect we will find ourselves encouraging, forgiving, overlooking, nurturing, and yes, even romancing our spouse!

The 'little' acts of kindness and attention will come naturally when we are truly loving.