Do yourself a favor, love your wife. 

(Song of Solomon 7.10-13) 

It's a strange dynamic - if the one you love is pushing you away, gently relax and that one of significance might just fall all over you.

Sometimes 'reforming' a person isn't as important as getting them to do what you need for them to do. This is especially important in the constant rub, give-and-take, of close relationships.

Sometimes well-meaning hopes and expectations are perceived as pressures. That can frequently bring resistance and aloofness, or hostility.

What is most important in your relationship? Is getting what you want in the day-to-day material and social world more important than the peace and joy of a loving relationship?

The first imperative is keeping what is truly of significance the top priority. If that priority of significance is the one you love, then your relationship can be nurtured. It is a two way street, of course.

It has often been said, "It takes two..." and that is absolutely true in making a situation work - however, it only takes one to tear a relationship apart.

Don't be one who loses sight of what is 'at the door.'