How to enable people to 'sacredness.'

This is excellent for parenting/grandparenting or helping adults to grow the width of their life, regardless of its length. (Sanctus – holy, saint, sacred)

·         Class 1: Developing High Expectations

·         Class 2: Providing Positive Motivation

·         Class 3: Determined Love - Accepting Them As They Are

·         Class 4: Giving Hope 'For The Better'

·         Class 5: Overlooking Mistakes and Failures

·         Class 6: Comforting When They Are Hurt or Alienated

Outline:

Class One: Developing High Expectations

Joseph had high expectations! Genesis 37.19

If we have high expectations of an individual it can encourage that individual's personal development of high expectations: (Gen. 37.3)

·         if that individual becomes convinced of the possibility

o    realistic

o    personally desired and self-defined goal (ownership)

o    can see a direct path from where they currently are (if/then)

·         if that individual has confidence in our value system

·         if that individual feels that our confidence is benevolent and not self-serving

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Class Two: Providing Positive Motivation

The 'Three Hebrew Children' had positive motivation! Daniel 3:12-30

If we are 'forward looking' with an individual it can encourage that individual to plan: (Daniel 1:3-20)

·         to motivate is to move - "you can't steer a parked car" Catherine McGuckin (Wycliffe Translator: Papua New Guinea)

o    emotionally

o    intellectually

·         'forward thinking' is looking down the road - a person driving forward while watching the road behind in the rear-view mirror is an accident waiting to happen

·         preoccupation with all possible dangers creates defensive living and rapidly diminishes positive possibilities and outcomes

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Class Three: Determined Love - Accepting Them As They Are

Jesus with Peter..."You are 'the Rock!' " Matthew 16:13-18

You know their limitations. It's likely that they know that you know their limitations and are embarrassed. When they know that we are going to love them with determination, and without conditions, we free them to grow and 'become.'

·         class 3 format: anecdotal and interactive

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Class Four: Giving Hope 'For The Better'

He was called Barnabas - son of encouragement! Acts 4:34-37

Discouragement happens naturally; encouragement happens with purpose.

·         discouragement leads to depression

·         depression literally poisons the mind and body

·         encouragement releases endorphins - that works to make everything better!

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Class Five: Overlooking Mistakes and Failures

Jesus wrote in the dirt and asked her, "Where are your accusers?" John 8:3-11

Holding onto a mistake or failure anchors an individual to that specific point in the past. We exercise that most sacred of efforts, Grace, when we free an individual from that anchor, enabling him/her to move on without reprehension.

·         class 5 format: anecdotal and interactive

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Class Six: Comforting When They are Hurt or Alienated

Jesus was moved with compassion and touched them...

(Matthew 9:36; 14:14; 15:32; 20:34; Mark 1:41; Luke 15:20)

A mother or grandmother soothing a child, kissing the hurt elbow while holding and comforting, builds a lasting bond that most fathers and grandfathers never experience. (2 Corinthians 1:3&4)

·         models empathy

·         creates value

·         builds confidence that most things that are hurtful aren't dangerous (risk assessment & risk tolerance) 

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