Helen Phillips Funeral  

(16 February 1925 - 08 November 2005)

10 a.m. 11 November 2005

at White Rock Pentecostal Church 

 

Congregational singing: "Wonderful Peace"

            song leader - Ken Harvey

            pianist - Jim Huffman        

 

Rev. H.M. Shipp – Old Testament reading: Psalms 23

          Rev. Shipp – pastoral prayer

 

Rev. Glen Faulkner singing: "I want us to be together in Heaven"

 

Drew Tustin shares thoughts about Helen

 

Roy Lee Sinor singing: "I'm on the other side right now"

 

Aaron Mahan – New Testament reading: John 11:17-27

          Aaron sings: " Beulah Land "

 

Jim Huffman - Eulogy:

 

Pastor Shipp, thank you for allowing us to use this beautiful facility to honor the memory of Helen Phillips today. We sincerely appreciate all the efforts you and your congregation have put forth in behalf of the family!

 

Brother Faulkner, you honor us with your presence and ministry here today. It was Helen's request that you be here today, as it was for Roy and Aaron to be here singing.

 

In fact, everything we are doing today was requested by Helen, although maybe not quite as elaborately as she would have wanted… J

 

Helen Phillips! What a woman. She always looked like a million bucks. EVERYTHING matched! It was incredible. Ask her sisters, some of these things I can't really talk about here.

 

One might not say that she was a 'clothes horse,' but one could say that there was not any occasion she couldn't be dressed for - in about an hour...if it started in half an hour.

 

One might not say she was always late, but one could say she always made a grand entrance.

 

Helen was not INTO mornings. She would have attended Sunday School if it would have occurred several hours later in the day. It was a supreme act of spiritual discipline to be at church on Sunday mornings in time for the congregational greeting.

 

She didn't always have to go to Wal-Mart every afternoon, but by 9:00 o'clock in the evening a need had always arisen. She considered the 62 Highway store, HER Wal-Mart.

 

I kept expecting them to give her an honorary blue vest…except it didn't go with any of her shoes or purses.

 

She was there so often that, even little Hispanic kids would come up to her, recognizing her as a friendly face. She would take Spanish Bible storybooks with her to Wal-Mart to give to them. She would wait for them to come out to the parking lot.

 

She didn't need anyone to drive her anyplace…she had Jesus riding with her! I told her I thought that perhaps Jesus, AND her angels, only rode with her because they were afraid to leave her alone with the car keys.

 

And, if you ever thought you had won an argument with her, you only thought you had won an argument with her.

 

Even when she called to apologize for something, you hung up feeling guilty.

 

She had three basic necessities, apart from all her shoes, purses, and dresses – her telephone, her car, and of course, Wal-Mart.

 

She took care of those she loved, even if you didn't want her to!

 

She always made certain everyone honored me on the annual Pastor Appreciation Day, two or three times each year.

She was fiercely protective of her church, even though we don't shout and dance and do the things she so enjoyed doing! She would say, I can do that through all eternity.

 

She now has on her party dress and she's dancing! I can almost hear her shouting. She's probably already organized some kind of big get-together with Homer, Eldon, momma, her two little ones, and a host of others. It'll be a big deal and she'll be telling them about her surprise 80th birthday party she organized.

 

I'm certain she is watching right now making sure we get this right…she spent a lot of time planning her funeral the past 15 years or so.

 

She was a marvelous woman in ministry. She caught a lot of flack for being a woman in ministry. We've had many conversations about it.

 

I've written a letter to her…you may listen in if you want.

 

My dear Helen,

I understand the difficulty you faced - trying to work in peace and harmony with fellow Christians who might take you to task for exercising your God-given ministry to the church. You were part of a church that encourages everyone to find their place of ministry in the church, regardless of their gender.

You found great encouragement in the passage in Galatians - “There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” Galatians 3.28

You were blessed to be part of a long spiritual lineage of great women who exercised their calling for the benefit of God's people: There was Miriam, one of the three leaders God set in place at the head of the newly gathered congregation of Israel. “Then Miriam the prophetess, Aaron’s sister, took a tambourine in her hand...” Exodus 15.20

Miriam was a prophet.  

And then there was Deborah. Deborah was a prophet and a judge (Judges 4.4,5). “Deborah, a prophetess, the wife of Lappidoth, was leading Israel at that time. She held court under the Palm of Deborah between Ramah and Bethel in the hill country of Ephraim, and the Israelites came to her to have their disputes decided.”

There was Huldah. Huldah was a prophetess who authenticated the scroll discovered in the days of Josiah (II Kings 22.14 & II Chronicles 34.22). “Hilkiah the priest, Ahikam, Acbor, Shaphan and Asaiah went to speak to the prophetess Huldah, who was the wife of Shallum son of Tikvah, the son of Harhas, keeper of the wardrobe. She lived in Jerusalem, in the Second District.”

Helen, in the cases of Deborah and Huldah there were many men, representatives of the congregation of Israel, coming before these women for leadership, wisdom, and knowledge. There have been many men who have benefited greatly from spiritual insight and prayers you have made on their behalf.

Helen, you have taken great comfort from the fact that God never has been a partial God and He doesn’t change (II Chronicles 19.7, Acts 10.34, Romans 2.11, Ephesians 6.9). “Now let the fear of the Lord be upon you. Judge carefully, for with the Lord our God there is no injustice or partiality or bribery.” Then Peter began to speak: ‘I now realize how true it is that God does not show favoritism.’” “For God does not show favoritism.” “And masters, treat your slaves in the same way. Do not threaten them, since you know that he who is both their Master and yours is in heaven, and there is no favoritism with Him.”

How many times have I heard you quote The Old Testament prophet Joel (Joel 2.28-29) “And afterward, I will pour out my spirit on all people. Your sons and daughters will prophesy, your old men will dream dreams, your young men will see visions. Even on my servants, both men and women, I will pour out my spirit in those days.”  And then that passage quoted again in the New Testament book of Acts (Acts 2.17) “In the last days, God says, I will pour out my Spirit on all people. Your sons and daughters will prophesy, your young men will see visions, your old men will dream dreams.”

We have talked about a couple of other significant passages in connection with women: (Acts 21.9 & I Corinthians 11.5) “Leaving the next day, we reached Caesarea and stayed at the house of Philip the evangelist, one of the Seven. He had four unmarried daughters who prophesied.” “And every woman who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head -- it is just as though her head were shaved.”

There was Anna, in Luke 2.36 who was a prophetess, and Tabitha (Dorcas) who is called a “disciple” and had a ministry of helps as is defined by Paul (Acts 9.36). Then there was Phoebe (Romans 16.1&2) who was a “deacon” according to the Greek text. Also, we find Priscilla and Aquila , “fellow workers.” Paul also used this title for the women, Euodias and Syntyche (in Philippians 4.2,3) and a few others (Colossians 4.11, Philemon 1.1,24).

We talked about how this term "fellow workers" was a title -  not at all the word used by Jesus when calling for general laborers in the harvest.

In the 13th century the text of Romans 16:7 was changed to masculinize the name so that instead of reading Greet Andronicus and Junia, my relatives who have been in prison with me. They are outstanding among the apostles, and they were in Christ before I was.” It has now read for the past seven (7) centuries “Greet Andronicus and Junias...” It was not in keeping with the theology and dogmas of the pre-reformation Church that there could possibly have been a woman recognized as an apostle.

We talked about how many protestant Christians today are still stuck in the dark-ages' prejudices of the medieval Catholic Church.

Yes, dear Helen, there IS quite a body of evidence in scripture of women who were recognized as having served the church and/or the people of Israel in ministry leadership roles.

There isn’t a defense presented in these passages of scripture, just a matter of record, and in some instances, introduction.

There are only three (3) passages which are used by those wishing to exclude women from ministry. They were each written by Paul to address socio-cultural situations in Corinth and Ephesus which were different from the norms of societal and cultural experience and expression elsewhere in the Greco-Roman world of the first century. These prohibitions had everything to do with the practice of temple prostitution in those areas at that time in history.

Even today we do have to be aware of, and understand, the socio-cultural situations in which we desire to minister.

My dear lady, you have done well to ignore the ignorant who have tried to tear you down. It's not to say that those folks can't change. Some of them did indeed eventually come around to validating your God-given ministry.

Helen, change comes slow and it wasn't your or my job to try to change people…if God can't change them, it's a waste of your time. As we have talked - changes don't come by debate or mandates in legalism. Changes should and must come through good balanced teaching and the way we live.

The bottom line for me in working alongside folks who are stuck in that old medieval Catholic prejudice is, "I am determined to know nothing among you except Jesus Christ, and Him crucified..."

This, as many other Biblical subjects, really isn't worth debate. Approach those who would become angry over this subject as a weaker brother and accept him where he is.

I hope our visits over the years on this subject helped you keep a sense of perspective. I know you have been hurt deeply by rude, insensitive and ignorant comments.

Your ministry to me down through the years has been a blessing. I love and appreciate you. Your genuine concern to assure that there is a Biblical basis for everything was so very refreshing!

Have a wonderful eternity…we'll see you on the other side!

    jim  

(I did write the bulk of this letter to Helen a few years back. She said, more than once, that it was very important to her. I've added very little to it for this service.)

Commitment scriptures:

And I heard a great voice out of the throne saying, Behold, the tabernacle of God is with men, and he shall dwell with them, and they shall be his people, and God himself shall be with them, and be their God: and he shall wipe away every tear from their eyes; and death shall be no more; neither shall their be sorrow, nor crying, nor pain, any more: the first things are passed away. And He that sitteth on the throne said, Behold, I make all things new. These words are faithful and true. They are come to pass. I am the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end. I will give to them who are athirst of the fountain of the water of life freely. They who overcome shall inherit these things; and I will be their God and they shall be my children. – Rev. 21.3-7

 

We brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out. The Lord gave, and the Lord hath taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord.

 

Behold, I show you a mystery: we shall not all sleep, but we shall all be changed in a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trump: for the trumpet shall sound, and the dead shall be raised incorruptible, and we shall be changed. For this corruptible must put on incorruption, and this mortal must put on immortality. So when this corruptible shall have put on incorruption and this mortal shall have put on immortality, then shall be brought to pass the saying that is written, Death is swallowed up in victory. O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory? The sting of death is sin; and the strength of sin is the law. But thanks be to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore, my beloved, be ye stedfast, unmovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labor is not in vain in the Lord. – I Cor. 15.51-58

 

Forasmuch as it has pleased our heavenly Father, in His wise providence to take unto Himself our beloved Helen Phillips, we therefore commit her body to the grave and here we pay the last rites of the living to the departed: earth to earth, ashes to ashes, dust to dust. In committing this body to the grave, the dust returns to the earth as it was. The soul has gone to God who gave it. 

Blessed are the dead which die in the Lord from henceforth. Yea, saith the Spirit, that they may rest from their labors; for their works do follow with them. For them that sleep in Jesus shall God bring with Him, and over such the death hath no power.

 

(The following is a poem that reminds me of Helen's attitude as she expressed it to Carma, Paul, and others just hours and days before her death. While this poem wasn't read at Helen's funeral, I wanted it reprinted here. jim huffman)  

"This old house of clay."

When I'm through with this old clay house of mine,

And no more guidelights through the windows shine.

Just box it up tight and lay it away

with the other clay houses of yesterday.

 

And with it my friends, do try if you can,

To bury the wrongs since first I began

To live in this house, bury deep and forget;

when I meet the great Architect Supreme,

face to face, I want to be clean.

 

I know it is too late to mend

A bad-builded house when we come to the end –

But to you who are building, just look over mine

And make your alterations while there is yet time.

Just study this house, no tears should be shed.

It's like any clay house, when the tenant has fled.

 

I've lived in this house many years, all along

Just waiting – and oft I've longed to go home;

Don't misunderstand me, this world is divine,

With love, birds, and flowers, and glorious sunshine;

It's a wonderful place, and a wonderful plan,

A wonderful, wonderful gift to man.

 

Yet I feel, when the cycle is complete –

There are dear ones across that we're anxious to meet

So we close up the books, we check up the past,

No more forged balances, this is the last.

Each item is checked – each page must be clean,

That is the passport we carry to our Builder Supreme.

 

So, when I'm through with this old house of clay,

Just box it up tight and lay it away;

For the Builder has promised when this one is spent

To have one all finished with timber I've sent

While I lived here in this one. Of course it will be

Exactly as I have builded here, you see.

 

It's the kind of material we each send across.

If we build poorly, then of course it is our loss.

You ask what material is the best to select?

It was told you long ago by the Great Architect,

"A new commandment give I unto you,

that you love one-another as I have loved you."

So the finest material to send above

Is clear straight-grained timber of brotherly love.

 

Now, when I'm through with this old house of clay –

Just box it up tight – and lay it away.

                                         - author unknown

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 And now may the peace of God, which passes all understanding, keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. And the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ and the love of God and the communion of the Holy Spirit and the fellowship of the Saints be with you all and always. Amen.

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